Independent women.

A common mistake I believe most women tend to make at least once in their lives, is letting themselves become totally dependent on the guy, commonly without noticing.

If you allow yourself to live fully for him, then you are destroying the person he fell in love with in the first place.

Loving without losing oneself in the process is quite hard, yet it’s the key to a healthy relationship. I have seen a lot of energetic , independent and socially active women become a total introverts and lose their shine after getting involved with someone. & trust me It’s such a turnoff for men that they start getting annoyed.
Ask yourself .. Where’s your life? Who are you without him ? Can you make yourself happy without needing him all the time ? 

Remember when you first met, you had your own life, interests, friends & career. He fell in love with you for you. Then you started making him a priority ( which is totally fine ) , then you start making compromises and giving up a lot of things for him, then you give him the right to start blaming you for every fight you have, forcing you to try fix things that are not fixable & weren’t yours to fix. Then you start nagging, because you want his full time and attention.  You start giving more and asking for more .

To him, you are always there, you cannot do anything without him, your happiness depend on him and he’s sick of being your everything. He doesn’t like the fact you gave him the responsibility of your life & your happiness. Quite sure if he loves you, he’d want to make you happy but the idea that he could be the only reason of your happiness is scary.

Stop, right there for a moment and ask yourself: would this be the case if you had your own life? Your own goals ? Would he dare get tired of you if you were busy doing things that didn’t involve him? Would he not try to make you happy when he sees you happy for other reasons ? 

Men love independent women, they love women who challenge them and give them the benefit of a doubt. They might convince you that they always want you to obey or to always make them your no. 1 while all that they need is for you to make them feel anything but your everything.

Don’t give up your life for love, instead love to make yourself more alive. Make compromises but only when you know it’s worth it. Do not lose yourself, your glow or your character because nothing shall last except the love you owe yourself.  Chase your goals with your partner encouraging you. Make your own choices, and never settle for less. You are precious. Fall in love, & stay your charming self.